I once had an experience. I will share it so we’ll all learn.
Once upon a time, a young man approached me for marriage. The thing is, he gave me a lift one rainy day, I was stranded and couldn’t find a taxi. Then boom! He came along and offered to take me half the way. So I gave him my contact.
Read carefully, there’s a lot you can learn from this experience. I gave the young man my phone number and we eventually met up.
The first day we met, I looked at him, listened carefully to him, and gave no reply. Just my usual “let me think about it”. The next time we met, still the same story. But on the third time, I told him “no”. My answer was no. I wasn’t interested.
After a while, I started reflecting on why I refused the young man. I could have just gotten into a relationship with him, at least get to know him. Or we could have just become friends. Upon my reflection, I discovered that the problem wasn’t the man. The problem was in the way he appeared.
On the first day, I disliked his dressing but I didn’t want to think about it then, so I excused it. The second day, he dressed even worse. I think on the third day, I couldn’t stand it and I told him “no”.
You see, many times, we forget that the world is a marketplace. We market ourselves in every field or sphere we find ourselves in. I mean literally in every sphere. I said “no” to that young man, sorry for doing that. But do you know how many people have said “no” to you just because you didn’t look the part?
What picture are you painting? What does one see immediately they look at you?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about fancy dresses, make-up, shoes, and bags. You don’t have to be rich to look the part. Many times we fill our wardrobe with clothes that don’t quite look the part.
What picture are you painting? How is your composure? How do you carry yourself? There are a lot of things that go on people’s heads. Have a carriage worthy of who you are! When you approach someone and start a conversation, the person will listen because you carry yourself well.
Together with a confident look and good, decent attire, you paint a picture that sends the right signal! Sometimes it’s not just about how much knowledge or money you have. It’s more about your disposition.
Remember, before someone can discover your knowledge or wealth, he must first see you! It lies in your hands, the “you”, you want to show! Paint the right picture!
