A Parent-Child Relationship caters for the physical, emotional and social development of a child. As parents are saddled with the responsibility of taking care of their children, they provide the necessary needs like food, clothes, books, pay their fees and also cater for their wants like buying Christmas clothes, gadgets and so on.
Aside from those responsibilities, parents are meant to show love and be like buddies or mentors to their children, but unfortunately, in here in Nigeria, we find parents very harsh and strict with their children, resulting in lack of good communication, lack of trust, lack of good connection, and low self esteem.
Here are four ways parents can have healthy relationships with their children:
Avoid Shouting and Excessive Beating
Children are meant to make mistakes and shouting only makes matters worse. When parents shout, they defeat the morale of their children, making them feel like failures.
Beating on the other hand should be avoided. It only hardens your children and makes them more stubborn and unremorseful.
A good way of scolding your children is to use the Bible or the Quoran , appreciate them for their good deeds so they’ll find no reason to do wrong, give corporal punishments too.
Buy Them Gifts
Parents shouldn’t wait till it is Christmas before they can buy things for their children. You can buy them presents at intervals to show them love.
This will in turn prevent them from begging for things outside, or giving people the impression that they are not loved by their parents.
Whenever your children do something exceptional, it is an opportunity to buy them gifts to encourage them to do more.
This is one act that leads children into depression and allows them to easily get lured by bad peers. Comparing your children to others leads to secret anger, bitterness, hatred, including low self-esteem.
Comparison does not give positive results. Instead of comparing your children to others, encourage them to be the best at what they do.
A friend is someone that has you at heart and cares so much about your feelings. Parents can demonstrate friendship by asking about their day at school, knowing their friends, getting to know their pain points or challenges and so on.
This will create a strong bond so that your children won’t hesitate to air their view on any issue bothering them.
There you have it. If you have learnt from this article, you can also help other parents by sharing.
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