One of my beliefs is that there is a reason for everything. which includes that there is a reason for me being me.
This reality became a part of me when I was an undergraduate. This was when I fully understood what real beauty means according to John Ray – “Beauty is power; a smile is its sword“.
I never knew I was beautiful until I got into the university. It was there that I realised the kind of attention I command. I began to wonder what is it about my looks, “a lot of girls are more beautiful than I am”, I blurted out.
I used to be a very timid, shy, quiet and a very fearful girl with low self esteem. I was fearful of everything.
Before I speak to anyone, whether to ask for a direction or to buy something, I was always thinking of the response I would hear from the person. I didn’t realise I could leverage on my looks and personality to build confidence and destroy fear.
A day came when I needed to sort out a thing at the ICT, I met a staff who is a lady. She was so accommodating and she responded well. I just thought she was naturally a nice person.
She was actually nice, but she was not always the way she was with me (a truth she later shared with me). She told me “Rose, there is no one that won’t like you”.
I held onto those words and I became conscious and observant so as to know how true it was. Of a truth, I realised that.
I began to leverage on that to stand up and speak in class, even when I gave a wrong answer, everything I said was received with kind words.
Upon realising that, my confidence and self-esteem was built to a large extent. I leverage on stares and complements from people to get things done and to speak boldly in public because I was always given welcoming stares.
Welcoming stares speak to me, a stare gives me the signal to go ahead with what I want to do. I remembered a time I needed to walk into a bank to market my products, while making the decision, I was skeptical and fearful.
I had a lot of “what ifs” in my head. At last, I decide to go with the “whatever that wants to happen should happen” mentality. I stood at the gate for some seconds before the gate man walked up to with a smile and said “fine girl, wetin I fit do for you”.
Those words were golden, they suddenly activated my confidence to the point that I was able to speak with everyone in the bank.
You should therefore know these:
- Your beauty is an asset which you need to leverage on to achieve whatever you want. The earlier you realised this truth, the better you start achieving a lot.
- Your beauty is your resistance to fear and low self esteem.
- You begin to build your confidence when you decide to leverage on your beauty
- Your beauty is a weapon that helps you walk in the knowledge that you are never alone, not a failure and definitely not a fearful person.
- Your beauty gives you the feeling and belief that you can rely upon yourself. It gives you a feeling of being sure of yourself and your abilities, not in an arrogant way but in a realistic secure way.
- You are not the most beautiful in the world, another person’s beauty starts where yours ends but you are the only carrier of your beauty.
The need to work on your confidence can never be overstated as a visionary. Your beauty is a gold deposited in you and you need to activate it as soon as possible.